Opinions: Dell’s intel: Merging friendships

Friendships are a key component in life and finding the right ones is the best part


My friends and I, Shannon McLaughlin (11), Kendra Coughlin (11), Zoe McCarthy (11), and Serena Welde (11) spend an amazing time together on New Years Eve. I’m happy to call them my friends.

Lauren Dell, Opinions writer

Lately, I’ve been hearing about the fights in other people’s friendships. And it got me to thinking about how my own friendships almost got sabotaged by an outsider.

Friendships are tough to make sometimes and may not be able to work out. It might take work to make friends but then sometimes it might be for the best it doesn’t work out.

Sometimes in life it is better to keep certain friends separate than to try and bring them together. Their personalities may not work or they might just be slightly crazed.

A while ago one of my best friends wanted to bring in one of her friends, that wasn’t in our original group. Let’s call her Sally.

This sounds like a good idea, right? That’s what I thought too.

I love making new friends but trying to bring a new person into a group when no one really knows their personality is a train wreck waiting to happen.

We thought as a group “Okay, a new friend, and she seems pretty cool, why not?!”

We all started to hang out every weekend and we got to know her. At first I thought it was going to be great with someone new. But, it turned out to be the exact opposite.

I started to get attitude from her, and everything that I did was somehow wrong, according to her. I felt as if my best friends were being taken away from me, and that somehow she was better than me.

I felt like my friends didn’t care about me anymore.

After months of me complaining and no one believing me, one of my friends came to me and confessed she knew exactly what I was talking about. She told me how Sally confused her 10 different lies and was caught in the lies red handed.

After months of arguing with each other and almost getting torn apart, Sally finally showed her true colors to the rest of the group.

After the pieces were picked up we all went back to our lives, the way they were before Sally came along.

The situation I was put in taught me about the real personalities of people and how sometimes they don’t combine with others.

It also taught me that some people are pretty crazy.

Since then, my friends and I have grown and I’m happy to still call them all my friends.