Opinions: The little things: The final form of love

I vow to forgive; to be strong.

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Hannah Mellor

As a reminder to forgive, I wear my concert t-shirt from Beyoncé’s “Lemonade” tour.

 

Beyoncé announced that her and her husband, Jay Z, are expecting twins, Feb. 1.

This announcement comes less than a year after Beyoncé released her album “Lemonade” which chronicled the story of her husband allegedly cheating on her.

The album covers 11 chapters: intuition, denial, anger, apathy, emptiness, accountability, reformation, resurrection, hope, redemption and forgiveness.

Forgiveness: the final form of love.

It’s easy to forgive the little things: forgetting about plans I made with my friend, not completing the one chore my dad asked me to do, breaking my little brother’s lego set.

All these situations can be solved with a simple sincere apology.

It takes a strong person to forgive the bigger things.

Everyone makes mistakes; I make mistakes almost every day.

Some are harder to forgive than others.

It’s easier for my best friend to forgive me for not calling her back than it is for her to forgive me for lying about my Friday night plans.

It’s easier for my boyfriend to forgive me for forgetting about dinner plans than it is him to forgive me for losing his trust.

I’m sure it was easier for Beyoncé to forgive Jay Z for ditching her for work reasons than it was for him cheating on her.

It takes a strong person to forgive people for their monumental mistakes.

Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.

I forgive others when I choose to focus on the good things someone has done for me, instead of the anger I feel in the moment.

When a friend of mine not only lied but ditched me, I remembered all the times she brought me mint ice cream, the times she stuck up for me when boys were being mean and had my back when rumors were spread about me.

I have many different reasons why I forgive people.

Sometimes I forgive people not to erase the memory, but to free myself from the bitterness.

I forgave my biological father for leaving my mother because I love him. It was a hard time for all of us but we got through it. 15 years later, I can say it was the best decision I have ever made. I have amazing step-parents that treat me as their own. By forgiving him, I ended up feeling more relieved than disappointed.

Sometimes I forgive people because I am strong enough to understand everybody makes mistakes.

When my little sister left my volleyball on the floor, my puppy popped it and left teeth marks all over it. I was furious, but I realized it was never her intention to ruin the ball, she simply just forgot to put it up.

Sometimes I even forgive people simply because I still want their presence in my life.

When an argument arose in one of my group chats, I forgave my friend for not sticking up for me. Even though I felt betrayed, she is worth keeping around to pick me up when I need her the most.

When I don’t forgive the people in my life for their mistakes, I end up hurting myself more than I hurt them.

Forgiveness makes me stronger and I hope I’m surrounded by people who are strong enough to forgive me for my own mistakes.

I learned this lesson from the strongest woman I know: Beyoncé.

She chose to fight through her pain rather than walk away. She chose to work through the grieving and stay strong. She chose to forgive.

Now, she is expecting twins with the man she loves as she steps into a new chapter of her life.

Like Beyoncé, I vow to forgive people; to be strong.

Forgiveness has not only made me stronger, but it has strengthened the relationships I share with the most important people in my life.

I am strong enough to get through anything because I am strong enough to forgive.